If you have suffered a miscarriage, you may be going through a time of sadness like no other. The emotions that you are feeling may be all over the place, from severe depression to anxiety for the future. This is normal, and the impact of a miscarriage emotionally may take much longer to heal than physically. You need to have time to grieve and as time passes you will become whole again.
Emotions after a Miscarriage
Varying emotions and thoughts will make it hard to focus on anything. You may feel anger, disbelief, sadness, guilt, depression, the inability to focus, and moodiness. You may cry a lot, have difficulty sleeping, be very tired during the day, and have no appetite. A mother bonds with her baby very early, so even if the miscarriage happened in the early stages of pregnancy, it is still very hard to deal with (After a Miscarriage: Surviving Emotionally).
What you can Do
Lean on those who want to help you. Lean on your partner. At first, you may not want anyone around you; you may only want to be alone for a while, and that is fine, too. If someone offers to help you, accept it and don’t be ashamed to do so. A miscarriage is just like losing a loved one on earth, so you must allow time to grieve. Everyone grieves differently, so just pay attention to your body and emotions and let them lead the way.
At first, you may be in total denial and shock. This happens in a lot of situations of loss and grief. You may question yourself and your habits and just not believe it really has happened. After you get past the shock and denial, you may begin to feel angry, depressed, or guilty (or a combination of all three). You may be angry that this happened to you, you may not think it is fair, you may go into a depressive state, and you may feel like you did something wrong to make it happen. Once you get through this daunting period of time (that can last for months) you will soon begin to accept what happened and come to peace with it. At this time you may begin to feel like your old self again. You will always remember what happened, and always be a little sad about it, but it won’t consume your everyday thoughts as it did before (After a Miscarriage: Surviving Emotionally).
Once it comes time to make decisions about what to do with your maternity and baby items, having someone to help you and support you can greatly help ease the pain. Be sure to take care of yourself, get plenty of rest, eat right, and make it through one day at a time. The mind is a very powerful thing, and all of these thoughts can overcome you at this time. If you need someone to talk to, that can help, whether it is your partner, a friend, or a professional counselor.
“After a Miscarriage: Surviving Emotionally.” American Pregnancy Association. 1 Apr. 2015. Web. 17 Jan. 2016. <http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-loss/miscarriage-surviving-emotionally/>